Sex After C-Section – When Is Sex Safe?

Exactly when is it safe to have sex after C-Section?sex after c-section

Six weeks is the recommended waiting time. This is typically when your lochia bleeding stops and your body returns to its normal, ‘healed‘ state.

Some doctors may be more conservative recommending as long as 8 weeks.

Do You Absolutely have to wait 6 weeks to have sex after your C-Section?

Many women don’t.  In fact there are women who have had sex as soon as one week after having their C-Section.

Does this mean it’s OK to risk it and have sex sooner?

Feel ‘SEXIER” in the bedroom after your C-Section.

I don’t encourage that.  Sex too soon can cause an internal infection and/or heavy bleeding and that can delay your recovery.   But even more serious than that you could cause internal damage meaning an additional hospital stay.

What are the risks of having sex too soon after a C-Section?

Doctors are especially concerned that having sex too soon after your C-Section could result in an internal infection or hemorrhage.

The reason for this is that when you give birth, the placenta detaches from the uterus, this leaves a wound which is part of the reason why you bleed after childbirth.  Having sex too soon could cause an infection or further injury and internal bleeding.

You also have an internal uterine incision as well.  Having sex or even using tampons prior to a complete healing could cause injury to your internal incision and introduce a serious infection.

Painful Sex After Your C-Section

Sex too soon can also be painful to the vaginal area.

This might not make sense since C-Section babies don’t pass through the birth canal, so why would having sex be painful?

Here’s why?

Your muscles and ligaments were pulled and stretched during your C-Section procedure. That pulling and stretching affected your vaginal area.  If the area is still weak and healing, the movement and agitation that occurs during sex will cause pain.

Tip:  If you’ve waited at least six weeks or more after your C-Section and you still feel pain or discomfort during sex, post c-section recovery exercise is a good way to condition and strengthen your pelvic area, making sex less painful.

If you think you feel OK enough to resume sex before six weeks, just be aware of the dangers and certainly proceed with caution.

For your own health and safety and more enjoyment of the sexual experience both physically and emotionally, it’s safer to wait six weeks or until your doctor gives you the OK.  Healing after a C-Section can take long enough, why prolong it by taking unnecessary risks and having sex too soon?

Your emotional well being also plays a significant role in resuming sexual relations.If your hormones haven’t yet normalized and your physical healing is not yet completed, attempting intercourse too early can have negative emotional effects on your relationship.

If you or your partner have the urge to resume sexual activity before it’s safe, consider creative ways to be intimate without having intercourse.  These are ways you can share your intimate moments that are physically comfortable and safer while you heal.

Please comment below and tell us how soon you first had sex after your C-Section and what your experience was.

Blessings,

Elizabeth

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Mother, author, Cesarean researcher and C-Section mom herself, Elizabeth supports and helps educate women on C-Section birth, planning, making informed choices and recovering well.

21 comments

  1. Amber020 says:

    I had sex 2 weeks after having a c- section. I think im fine, sometimes I hurt a bit in my stomach but i think that’s just pains cuz they aint bad.

  2. Elizabeth says:

    Sex at two weeks after your C-Section is a bit soon so I’m glad you’re fine :-) I wouldn’t recommend everyone do that but if you feel the urge be sure you go easy. Thanks for your comment :-)

  3. Heather Griffin says:

    My husband has been wanting to but I am afraid it’s too soon…I’m 3weeks2days postpartum. (I was in active labor for 46hrs before getting stuck at 4cm and having a c-section) also I was induced for Gestational Hypertension. Is it still too soon?

  4. Elizabeth says:

    Hi Heather,

    3 weeks and 2 days IS technically too soon. You’ll get advice that it’s probably OK, but after all you go through when having a C-Section I wouldn’t risk having a problem that could set you back in your recovery.

  5. JENEBA M. SESAY says:

    I think twelve weeks is ok as that was the exact time it took me to be confortable making love after my C Section.

  6. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Hi Gail,

    As you probably already know, it’s not recommended. There are risks of having intercourse too soon after surgery. Sex does not have to be intercourse, there are alternative ways to pleasing one another. Perhaps you may want to try that :-)

    Blessings,
    Elizabeth

  7. Elizabeth says:

    Hello, I had sex way to early and I realize that. I had an emergency c-section and lost the baby. So nothing was planned and my emotions were crazy and we had sex only 5 days after I gave birth. Now 6 months later I am feeling the effects of having it too soon. It hurts to have sex for to long and I have discomfort all the time. Regretting having sex so early. If I could, I would go back and not do it for many more weeks.

  8. Elizabeth McGee says:

    First of all I want to say how sorry I am that you lost your baby and thank you for sharing your story. It’s good for other women to hear our story. So many women do have sex too soon. Many of them are OK but there are women who experience discomfort and problems. It IS really better to wait.

    I hope you’re feeling better :-)

    Blessings,
    Elizabeth

  9. Renee
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    says:

    I had a Csection 5 weeks ago I stopped bleeding 2 weeks ago , but I been fine no pain or anything , so me and my husband went for it , I didn’t feel any pain at all it was great , the next day I started spotting , now it’s more bleeding like my period not heavy and I have cramps too , is this my period coming back on or did I damage something ? I have no other pain just cramps in my stomach

  10. Elizabeth McGee says:

    HI Renee, If you have no fever, clotting or severe cramping I’d say you’re starting your period. Having sex may have just triggered it.

    However, keep an eye on things and if you notice anything unusual call your doctor immediately.

    Blessings,
    Elizabeth :-)

  11. Jessica Carr says:

    Hello there. Well I’m 4 and a half weeks postpartum and we had sex at 2 weeks. We didn’t have full out sex like normal. If I felt discomfort at all or I couldn’t take (sorry to sound so blunt but,) how deep it was I would tell my husband and we would stop. I feel fine now and I think I’m healing pretty quickly. My biggest scares were re-opening my cut and getting pregnant again. Thank god neither happened!! Hope this helps in any way.

  12. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Hi Jessica,

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us :-)

    I know it’s hard to wait to have sex and many couples give in to the urge. But I do want to stress that even though it may not be a problem, it’s still important to try and wait the full six weeks.

    It’s good that you were careful and I think that’s a big part of having sex again after your C-Section, whether you have it in a few weeks or wait the full six weeks, it’s always best to test the waters first so to speak :-)

    Thanks again Jessica. Sharing your story does help and I’m so grateful you stopped by :-)

    Blessings,
    Elizabeth

  13. kayla says:

    I had sex 3 weeks and 5 days after my section. I stopped bleeding a week and a couple days after the procedure
    I have no cramps or bleeding and feel fine but I’m still paranoid I messed up. I guess I will confess to my doctor.

  14. sasha says:

    i am 18 and just had my first baby the18th of febuary about two days before my 3 week mark after the c section my boyfriend and i tried having sex it hurt really bad, my mom said it would feel like i was losing my v card all over again (it felt worse!) no bleeding after words and the next day i was like i feel okay no bleeding and it hurt the first time when i lost my virginity but not that bad the second time so the next day (yesterday) we decided to do it again. it hurt but definitly not as bad no bleeding last night but today i woke up and peed as usual and was spotting light pink blood looked watery and not bad just put on a pad and i went to my aunts about 20 min later went to the bathroom again and i had BRIGHT RED BLOOD coming out in large amounts and clots i called the nurse at my obgyn she said i dont need to go to the dr. unless im filling a pad an hour im not im dripping in the pad every once in a while but when i wipe it comes out in globs im scared but my aunt says im not hemorrageing or anything so i guess ill see if im still bleeding bad tom. then go from there i hope every thing is ok def. not having sex again until after my six week mark tho

  15. Mimi says:

    I’m 3 weeks post partum, at the obgyn clinic I was asked about birth control and just warned that I could get pregnant easily. But at no point did they say don’t have sex til after 6 weeks. I’m still going to wait because I don’t want to tamper with my recovery!

  16. Heather Fesing says:

    I am currently 5 weeks PP, and we still haven’t had sex. My bleeding stops for a few days, then I appt again. We haven’t had sex since I was about 10 weeks pregnant. I had a subchorionic hemmohrage so we weren’t able to Eve have any type if sexual contact that could get me excited because they don’t want to irritate the uterus more. My husband has been great! We are both fearful of what may happen of we have sex too early. We’ve waited all these months (it’s been since August), so what’s a few more weeks to wait! I just with we could go away and have a special date night for when we finally do become intimate again. It will feel like the first time all over again……..maybe.

  17. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Hi Heather,

    You are so smart to wait. You simply don’t want to risk it.

    It’s awesome that you have such a wonderful husband who will wait. I admire that. Just stay focused on the time you can be together. It WILL be great and yes it will feel like the first time. My husband and I had that special time and it is worth waiting for :-)

    My best to you and your new family.

    Elizabeth
    Elizabeth McGee invites you to read How To Have An Ecstatic Birth – Even With A C-Section

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