Sex After C-Section – When Is Sex Safe?

Exactly when is it safe to have sex after a C-Section?sex after c-section

Six weeks is the recommended waiting time by most doctors or when your lochia bleeding stops and your body returns to its normal, ‘healed‘ state.

Some doctors may be more conservative recommending as long as 8 weeks.

Do You Absolutely have to wait 6 weeks to have sex after your C-Section?

Yes, you should. However there are many women that don’t.

Some women have sex as soon as one week after having their C-Section.

Does that mean it’s OK to risk it and have sex sooner?

I don’t encourage that and here’s why…

When you give birth the placenta detaches from the uterus, this leaves a wound which is part of the reason why you bleed after childbirth.  Sex too soon after a C-Section or even a vaginal birth can cause an internal infection, internal damage, hemorrhage or all of the above which will complicate and delay your recovery.  

C-Section moms are even more at risk because you have both an internal and external incision. Having sex or even using tampons prior to a complete healing could cause injury to your internal incision and/or introduce a serious infection.

Another side affect of having sex too soon is that it can be painful.

Many women are puzzled as to why sex is painful after a C-Section, after all C-Section babies don’t pass through the birth canal; and you don’t have an episiotomy, so why is it painful?

Your muscles and ligaments were pulled and stretched during your C-Section procedure. That pulling and stretching affected your vaginal area.  If the area is still weak and healing the movement and agitation that occurs during sex can be painful.

Tip:  If you’ve waited at least six weeks or more after your C-Section and you still feel pain or discomfort during sex, pelvic core exercise is a good way to condition and strengthen your pelvic area, making sex less painful.

If you think you feel OK enough to resume sex before six weeks just be aware of the risks.

                 Restore your core, pelvic floor and have a flat tummy.

For your own health and safety and more enjoyment of the sexual experience both physically and emotionally, it’s safer to wait at least six weeks or until your doctor gives you the OK.  Healing after a C-Section takes long enough, why prolong it by taking unnecessary risks and having sex too soon?

Also don’t forget your emotional well being. If your hormones haven’t yet normalized and your physical healing is not yet completed, attempting intercourse too early can have negative emotional effects on your relationship.

If you or your partner have the urge to resume sexual activity before it’s safe, consider creative ways to be intimate without having intercourse.  These are ways you can share your intimate moments that are physically comfortable and safer while you heal and can even be more enjoyable :-)

Please comment below and tell us how soon you first had sex after your C-Section and what your experience was.



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  1. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Hi Nicole,

    For starters don’t freak out, that will just make you upset. It’s not possible for me to know if you’ve got a problem internally. All I can say is to watch it and see if the bleeding and pain subside. If you’re concerned by all means contact your doctor. You’re still pretty early in your recovery so some bleeding is not unusual however keep an eye on it.

    Hope you’re feeling better soon :-)


  2. Nicole22 says:

    I had my second c section 3 weeks and one day ago my doctor had recommended us not having sex till 6 weeks after however on Valentine’s morning I couldn’t wait and we had unprotected sex he did pull out, however I’m terrified of the risk of still have getting pregnant this soon. Also before sex my bleeding had slowed down and was just a little bit of dark old blood and now since we had sex I am bleeding more and it’s bright red, also I have pain in my lower left side internally. Could something be wrong or am I just freaking out? I have no fever or anything

  3. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Sex at 4 weeks isn’t the best thing. Infection and discomfort are always a risk.

    At 4 weeks it isn’t likely you can get pregnant but anything is possible. I would suggest waiting another couple of weeks before having sex again. Besides after having a C-Section you should wait at least 18 months before becoming pregnant again.


  4. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Thank you Krisit for your feedback. :-)

    I’d also add that it’s always best to follow your doctors instructions on when intercourse is safe and try to abstain if possible. That’s the surest way to avoid infection and unnecessary internal bleeding.

    Elizabeth :-)

  5. Kristi says:

    I had intercourse 6days after and felt ok, sorry to be graphic but I would remind my husband just not too deep. My biggest fear was getting pregnant or infection. Neither happen thank God. If you are considering sex before your 6 week check up be sure to wear condoms to prevent any bacteria.

  6. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Hi Swetha,

    Bleeding a little in clots is generally OK about 2 months after C-Section. You may be starting your menstrual cycle at this point.

    Sometimes women have clots in their menstrual blood which can be bright red or dark in color. These clots can appear usually on the heaviest days of bleeding. Multiple clots may make your menstrual blood seem thicker than normal.

    Typically your body releases anticoagulants to keep your menstrual blood from clotting, but when your period is heavy there’s not enough time for anticoagulants to work and the clots form.

    If you have excessive clots larger than a quarter check with your doctor to rule out any conditions that might be causing an abnormal period.

    Hope that helps,

  7. swetha says:

    I had sex after 2 1/2 months of c section for two times. .now I am bleeding a little as clots..I m scared and worried..please let me know whats next

  8. Manda says:


    I had C- section in May 12 and the bleeding stopped about 2 months. I’m still afraid to have since and it”s about 6 months since my C – section. The last time I and my husband had sex was during few days prior to my egg retrieval which by the way it’s an IVF baby. He’s been patiently waiting for me until I want to coz right now I dont feel like doing sex. Its like my hormone messed up. I plan to wait until next yr.

  9. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Hi Nicole,

    My recommendation is to wait the full 6 weeks, especially after a 3rd C-Section. After enduring 3 surgeries on your uterus it’s best to wait at least 6 weeks.
    If you’re anxious you could check with your doctor.

    Elizabeth :-)

  10. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Hi Jen,

    It’s impossible for me to suggest what you can do. It’s good that you feel fine but the safest thing to do is check with your doctor. He’s the only one that truly knows your medical history and how well your body is healing.


  11. jen lopez says:

    So this Monday it will be five weeks and I feel fine. My husband and I want so have sex but are hesitant. He did try to go in and it felt like I was a virgin again but no real pain..can we try?

  12. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Hi Heather,

    You are so smart to wait. You simply don’t want to risk it.

    It’s awesome that you have such a wonderful husband who will wait. I admire that. Just stay focused on the time you can be together. It WILL be great and yes it will feel like the first time. My husband and I had that special time and it is worth waiting for :-)

    My best to you and your new family.


  13. Heather Fesing says:

    I am currently 5 weeks PP, and we still haven’t had sex. My bleeding stops for a few days, then I appt again. We haven’t had sex since I was about 10 weeks pregnant. I had a subchorionic hemmohrage so we weren’t able to Eve have any type if sexual contact that could get me excited because they don’t want to irritate the uterus more. My husband has been great! We are both fearful of what may happen of we have sex too early. We’ve waited all these months (it’s been since August), so what’s a few more weeks to wait! I just with we could go away and have a special date night for when we finally do become intimate again. It will feel like the first time all over again……..maybe.

  14. Mimi says:

    I’m 3 weeks post partum, at the obgyn clinic I was asked about birth control and just warned that I could get pregnant easily. But at no point did they say don’t have sex til after 6 weeks. I’m still going to wait because I don’t want to tamper with my recovery!

  15. sasha says:

    i am 18 and just had my first baby the18th of febuary about two days before my 3 week mark after the c section my boyfriend and i tried having sex it hurt really bad, my mom said it would feel like i was losing my v card all over again (it felt worse!) no bleeding after words and the next day i was like i feel okay no bleeding and it hurt the first time when i lost my virginity but not that bad the second time so the next day (yesterday) we decided to do it again. it hurt but definitly not as bad no bleeding last night but today i woke up and peed as usual and was spotting light pink blood looked watery and not bad just put on a pad and i went to my aunts about 20 min later went to the bathroom again and i had BRIGHT RED BLOOD coming out in large amounts and clots i called the nurse at my obgyn she said i dont need to go to the dr. unless im filling a pad an hour im not im dripping in the pad every once in a while but when i wipe it comes out in globs im scared but my aunt says im not hemorrageing or anything so i guess ill see if im still bleeding bad tom. then go from there i hope every thing is ok def. not having sex again until after my six week mark tho

  16. kayla says:

    I had sex 3 weeks and 5 days after my section. I stopped bleeding a week and a couple days after the procedure
    I have no cramps or bleeding and feel fine but I’m still paranoid I messed up. I guess I will confess to my doctor.

  17. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Hi Jessica,

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us :-)

    I know it’s hard to wait to have sex and many couples give in to the urge. But I do want to stress that even though it may not be a problem, it’s still important to try and wait the full six weeks.

    It’s good that you were careful and I think that’s a big part of having sex again after your C-Section, whether you have it in a few weeks or wait the full six weeks, it’s always best to test the waters first so to speak :-)

    Thanks again Jessica. Sharing your story does help and I’m so grateful you stopped by :-)


  18. Jessica Carr says:

    Hello there. Well I’m 4 and a half weeks postpartum and we had sex at 2 weeks. We didn’t have full out sex like normal. If I felt discomfort at all or I couldn’t take (sorry to sound so blunt but,) how deep it was I would tell my husband and we would stop. I feel fine now and I think I’m healing pretty quickly. My biggest scares were re-opening my cut and getting pregnant again. Thank god neither happened!! Hope this helps in any way.

  19. Elizabeth McGee says:

    HI Renee, If you have no fever, clotting or severe cramping I’d say you’re starting your period. Having sex may have just triggered it.

    However, keep an eye on things and if you notice anything unusual call your doctor immediately.

    Elizabeth :-)

  20. Renee says:

    I had a Csection 5 weeks ago I stopped bleeding 2 weeks ago , but I been fine no pain or anything , so me and my husband went for it , I didn’t feel any pain at all it was great , the next day I started spotting , now it’s more bleeding like my period not heavy and I have cramps too , is this my period coming back on or did I damage something ? I have no other pain just cramps in my stomach

  21. Elizabeth McGee says:

    First of all I want to say how sorry I am that you lost your baby and thank you for sharing your story. It’s good for other women to hear our story. So many women do have sex too soon. Many of them are OK but there are women who experience discomfort and problems. It IS really better to wait.

    I hope you’re feeling better :-)


  22. Elizabeth says:

    Hello, I had sex way to early and I realize that. I had an emergency c-section and lost the baby. So nothing was planned and my emotions were crazy and we had sex only 5 days after I gave birth. Now 6 months later I am feeling the effects of having it too soon. It hurts to have sex for to long and I have discomfort all the time. Regretting having sex so early. If I could, I would go back and not do it for many more weeks.

  23. Elizabeth McGee says:

    Hi Gail,

    As you probably already know, it’s not recommended. There are risks of having intercourse too soon after surgery. Sex does not have to be intercourse, there are alternative ways to pleasing one another. Perhaps you may want to try that :-)


  24. JENEBA M. SESAY says:

    I think twelve weeks is ok as that was the exact time it took me to be confortable making love after my C Section.

  25. Elizabeth says:

    Hi Heather,

    3 weeks and 2 days IS technically too soon. You’ll get advice that it’s probably OK, but after all you go through when having a C-Section I wouldn’t risk having a problem that could set you back in your recovery.

  26. Heather Griffin says:

    My husband has been wanting to but I am afraid it’s too soon…I’m 3weeks2days postpartum. (I was in active labor for 46hrs before getting stuck at 4cm and having a c-section) also I was induced for Gestational Hypertension. Is it still too soon?

  27. Elizabeth says:

    Sex at two weeks after your C-Section is a bit soon so I’m glad you’re fine :-) I wouldn’t recommend everyone do that but if you feel the urge be sure you go easy. Thanks for your comment :-)

  28. Amber020 says:

    I had sex 2 weeks after having a c- section. I think im fine, sometimes I hurt a bit in my stomach but i think that’s just pains cuz they aint bad.

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